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Preface xi Part I - FIRST CONSIDERATIONS 1 Breaking the Marital Contract 5 First Choices 9 Fear 15 "Winning" Custody 23 Shared Parenting: Listening to the Experts 17 A Constructive Divorce 31 When Divorce Is Destructive 36 Paying Support and Loving It 42 Part II - EMOTIONAL VIOLENCE IN DIVORCE 49 Emotional Violence 53 The Manufactured Victim 56 Betrayal of Intimacy 59 Brainwashing Children 62 Demonizing Your Ex 70 "Rageful Spouse Syndrome" 75 Part III - THE PLAYERS 79 The Players 83 Mental Health Professional 87 A Few Basics About Attorneys 91 Ethical Vs. Unethical Attorneys 94 Judges 100 Accountants 105 Professionalism and Accountability 107 Part IV - THE PROCESS III The Easy Divorce 115 Mediation 117 Litigation 120 Sucked Into the Legal Vortex 134 Strategy 136 A Glimpse Into the Courtroom 142 A Few Basics About Child Custody 145 Child Custody Evaluation 149 Part V - THE CHILDREN 155 Children For Sale 159 "Don't Worry, Children Are Resilient" 161 Choose Me! Choose Me! 164 Part of Mom, Part of Dad 166 Follow the Script 169 Helping Children Cope 174 Parenting 182 Friendly, but not "Friends" 185 The Other Home 189 Why Didn't You Fight for Me? 196 Warts and All 199 Stepparents 200 A Quick List of Do's and Dont's 203 Children's Rights Council 206 Part VI - THE AFTERMATH AND OTHER CONSIDERATIONS 209 Healing 213 Look on rhe Bright Side 216 Order out of Chaos 220 On the Rebound 223 A More Realistic View of Marriage 226 Great Expectations 233 A Public Health and a Mental Health Issue 236 Part VII - NUTS AND BOLTS OF DIVORCE 239 Choosing an Attorney 241 Working With Your Attorney 240 Dividing Assets 250 Calculating Spousal Support 255 Calculating Child Support 258 Shared- Parenting Custody Arrangements 261
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